[Noun; ~Pronunciation: /dis-ri-spekt/]
- Definition: Forgetting what is more important than your own pressing wants, for instance: littering the world around you because you can’t bring yourself to throw your empty bottles, wrappers and even hubcaps in the trash, but leave them out in the roadside instead.
“There is no respect for others without humility in one’s self”
– Henri Frederic Amiel –
Today I was frustrated by many things. For starters, my mother went swimming with my crazy sister and her daughter, but forwent to leave a message she was going to be late for lunch.
The second thing was when I opened my email and saw I still hadn’t gotten the update for a project I’m working on. An update that was promised a week ago, for a project that is due next Friday… Imagine my stress levels at this moment. AND I can’t ask for it again, because I’ve done that too many times already and I don’t want to be a nag.
Then I got frustrated because I learned my adopted-and-very-ill sister-from-another-mother has been on the phone with a shared friend again, while I am dying to speak with her. I keep getting a: “I’ll call you, soon!”, but nothing happens. At this point I am too chicken to pick up the phone, because I don’t want to bother her when she’s too tired or not in the mood or something.
I mean, I am having severe doubts whether or not my offence at cheering her up is actually working, and this doesn’t help. Talk about feeding my insecurities.
The last straw came when me and my mother were driving home from our weekly grocery hunt and I looked out of the car window. All I saw were empty bottles and wrappers and even a lost hubcap lying on the roadside. There wasn’t a clear square metre left, and as I was pondering on this the driver of the car in front of us opened his window and threw out an apple core. It missed our car by a hair.
The bottomline is: I get frustrated by people’s disrespect towards me. Disrespect is based on selfishness: you stop thinking about the people around you and thus stop caring about them, too.
The thing with receiving disrespect, is that you probably also give it. In my case, I think I should stop complaining: my mother was too busy driving a car to send a text in time, my friend was probably busy and must have forgotten to send the update, my adopted sister might be too tired to pick up the phone or maybe she is confused by my wicked attempts at cheering her up she doesn’t know what to do.
As for the people who throw their trash out of the car as if it’s nothing: I have no excuse for you. There’s a reason why this behaviour is fined by the police, and that’s because it’s wrong. Stop being so lazy and stop trashing our world (pun!)!
Frustration and disrespect are contagious: one can lead to the other and then the ball just keeps on rolling. Because what you give to the world is what you receive.
There’s only one cure to this diabolical vicious circle and that is to turn it around. Let’s send some respect into this world and see what happens!
(Yes, Trump, that means you, too)
When was the last time you got disrespected? What did you do?